Who knows any information on autism awarness?
I have a 8 year old son that has autism. He is very uncooperative and hard to deal with ,he alwayas tells me to shut up and go away. It hurts my feeling and I do not know how to express my feeling towards him without wanting to give up
how can i get my 8 year old son to stop being so violent how do i tell him it’s bad when he tells me to shut up go away and swings at me. He is a very big boy with a big heart but know connection
Hi, I myself have an autistic brother who also happens to be 8 years of age. Unfortunately, he cant speak or communicate and still is somewhat violent, so I speak from experience.
It’s hard to make a connection, and it’s very frustrating.
Seek some professional help.
But one thing. DO NOT GIVE UP. Try your hardest to establish a connection, perhaps he’ll outgrow it.
And another thing. Value his happiness and his space. Autistics have certain habits and tendencies. It’s futile to try and violate these, no matter how disturbing or disruptive they may be. If he doesn’t like being touched, stay from far away. If he tells you to shut up, be persistent.
Wish I could help you more. Best of luck.
(And if you believe in a God, pray.)
the school shoudl be helpign with this-
also youcan gethelp from teh division of developmental disabiities (in the US)
teh key is to catch him being good and reward him at that time-so he learns what he is suppposed to do
Your son has a disability, so don’t let his behavior hurt your feelings. That is part of his disability. Even if you do express your feelings in words, he won’t understand you. If he allows touch, a hug will get farther than words. Do not attempt to make him responsible for your feelings. That is too much for him to manage. Would your feelings be hurt if your son with cerebral palsy couldn’t go on a walk with you? Do not take this personally!
It is not “bad” when he tells you to shut up and go away. You are not going to be able to explain that to him and even if you could, it would be wrong. Read my lips: He has a communication disorder. Bad has nothing to do with it. Also, consider what you may be doing to provoke him.
Teaching children the right way to act is the only way to go with autistic kids. It sounds as though things have gotten too out of hand for you to do this on your own. Your best bet is to hire a behavior analyst to come into your home and teach you to communicate with your son and teach you how to teach new behaviors.
The school won’t help you out with home problems. However, you can talk to his teacher about if he or she is seeing these behaviors and what they do about them. It would also behoove you to go to observe his class and see how they handle him.
Finally, there are two groups that have chapters all over North America. They are Autism Speaks and the Center for Autism and Related Disorders (CARD.) They both maintain websites. Right now you are feeling pretty upset and isolated. Getting with a group can help a lot.
I think the most important thing that you can do is have a support system. This includes support groups as well as family and/or church family, friends and always your local school district and mental health services. I generally advise people to become involved in online support groups as well as in person support groups. Both have their place in the lives of parents who are dealing with a child with a disability. In person groups allow you to make contact with others walking your same path, giving you the visual of what other parents of autistic kids look like because sometimes we start to feel like the only ones walking around in a frustrated haze is us! Online support groups are so beneficial because of the anonymity the internet gives us we can ask those really hard questions that we sometimes fear we would be judged for in person.
Also at eight years old your son should be receiving services through your district. How he is acting at home and the things you want to work on there should also be worked on at school. Thus in his IEP it would be written in as a long term goal and then several short term goals with procedural descriptions of how these will be achieved. You can follow the same guide at home. The same structured environment he is in at school should be followed at home so there is no disruption in his life.
Expressing your feelings and all those emotions is the truly healthy way to work through this. Hopefully you can find good supports. I am including a link to several services for parents of autistic children.
i think you need extra help by a child sicaitrist bieng involved to help you
and give you advice and ideas a programe in place
you cant do this on your own you need support